The sad fact about spiritual abuse is that we are not alone. Reading the accounts of others (outside of BGBC) who have experienced spiritual abuse was very eye-opening for me and enabled me to see more clearly what I had gone through. I hope that it will do the same for you. You will read stories of legal battles, shunning, church discipline used inappropriately, abuse situations overlooked, etc. Identifying the problem is the first step in recovery and healing.
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Holy Terror - The Pendergast Story - Couple from Canada share their heart-breaking story and describe the pain of spiritual abuse by their church worse than the pain they felt when they lost their 28-yr old son in a car accident.
The Search For the Perfect Church - Jennifer and Mark Epstein's story of how they came to Boerne Christian Assembly. Doug Phillips is very popular in the homeschool community as a speaker, selling videos, toys, etc at his site. Jen tells the story how they are treated when she confronts Doug Phillips with her husband's anger issues, how the pastor institutes church discipline, how church members treat them (shunning), how new churches treat them, etc. You will read about legal threats and attempts at professional Christian mediation.
Let Him Alone; God Hath Bidden Him to Speak: FBC Jax and the Consequences of Silencing Dissent - Blogger Tom Rich sued FBC Pastor Mac Brunson in a several-year court battle and won.
Athena Dean's blog, Not Afraid to Tell My Story, tells the 12-year journey in the cult and chronicles her journey of healing.
Joyful Exiles - Paul and Jonna Petry - "Four and half years ago, I was fired from Mars Hill Church because I refused to resign under pressure. I was a pastor on staff, an elder, and an officer of the corporation along with a group of other men. I spent months seeking formal reconciliation and years hoping for a better course. I have not spoken about these matters publicly until now. With the mounting stories and “histories” coming out regarding Mars Hill Church, it no longer seems right or beneficial to remain silent."
Anouke's Story: Publicly slandered, shunned, and abused by her pastor. Abuse symptoms last for years. Very sad story - very similar to many I know from our former church.