There is a slice of heaven on earth when we can relate to one another in the church, regardless of the form our family takes, as individuals equal in worth, significance and value. ~Wade Burleson
They're everywhere. Unmarried, young Christian adults. Some searching and praying for that perfect match from Heaven. While others have all but abandoned the whole idea of marriage altogether.
Many are still at home, living a life of prolonged adolescence, with no hopes of marriage in sight. What has caused this drastic change that has reshaped the lives of an entire generation into singleness?
Join us as we search out the biblical answers for what has taken place, and interview theologians, families, young Christians (married and unmarried alike). Be with us as we search the scriptures for truth.
I did a little more digging to see what/who is behind this movie. UnMarried is being promoted by Family Vision Films. I visited the Family Vision Films website to read their "About Us" page:
They also included a picture of their family with eleven children and sign their name Jason and Jennifer Ross. Could this be a full-quiver family? A Patriarchal family?
Disclaimer: Just so you know, the e-mail you send to BGBCsurvivors @ gmail dot com does not go through any e-mail account of my husband's. I am the only one who reads that mail. I don't know why I never felt compelled to say that before. I'm feeling an icky feeling even having to mention that.
Take a look at the "feel" of the website. This is my first clue of "Patriarchy" - the Victorian look. Hmmm - that might be an interesting blog post. I'll make a note of it. I may need to take a break from this post for a sec to get a JA attitude adjustment.
Here is the blurb about the upcoming film UnMarried posted on the Renewing Housewives website.
Well! As we continue to work on our second Homemaking DVD, we have started another one as well. My very visionary husband has been inspired to produce a film that explores our current epidemic of protracted singleness in the church.
- Why are there so many unmarried Christians?
- What is causing this trend?
- Is it even an issue?
- And what can we do? What should we do?
We are still in the production stage of this film. We hope to release in the Spring of 2013. Please pray for us as we seek the biblical answers for what has taken place, interview theologians, families, and young Christians (married and unmarried alike).
Will someone please tell me what a very visionary husband is? No, never-mind, I don't want to know. We may not need to delve into that wording specifically, but it's important to note that both Kevin Swanson (mentioned in the previous post on this topic) and the folks at Family Vision/Renewing Housewives are from the Patriarchal mindset. This is a culture that idolizes families and puts great emphasis on raising Christian families for the future generations. They are also "full-quiver" - having as many babies as possible and populating the earth with Christian offspring - little warriors for Christ. Not to say any or all of that is bad, but it is an agenda that consumes every aspect of their lives. (For further reading on patriarchy, I highly recommend Cindy Kunsman's articles. Here's a very helpful one.)
It deserves to be said again: God is far more concerned about the functionality of the individual Christian in the family than the form of the family the individual Christian is in. ~Wade Burleson
When church leaders put an emphasis on the form that family units should take, even if it is a well-intentioned effort to encourage families, the emphasis of Scripture is missed. God is not nearly as interested in the form of a family group as He is the functionality of the individual person. Let me prove this:
(1). Marriage is temporal, not eternal.
Granted, there are a few non-traditional western religions (i.e. Mormonism) and a few long-time eastern religions (i.e. Islam) who advocate that marriage, even mulitiple marriages for men, are eternal. That's just not so. Jesus said that in heaven we "will not marry nor be given in marriage" (Mark 12:25).
Marriage is something that is not eternal. At some point, marriage will end for everyone. If a marriage happens to end here on earth for a Christian, it is possible for that Christian to experience the same fulfillment and joy here and now that he or she will experience eternally. A divorcee who trusts Christ, a graced widow or widower, and even Christian singles who have never married or never will marry have as much personal value, identity and significance as any married Christian. In fact, it might be said that there is an advantage for the Christian who is not married; he or she has the opportunity to understand how to function individually now as Christ intends us to function eternally then.
So let me be crystal clear. Since marriage is a form of relationship that will one day end for everyone, when there is an overemphasis in church on the form of one's family to the neglect of the individual's function within his or her family, then churches fail in our biblical mission. The function of a Christian within the family never ends, and when properly understood, never fails. So what is our function as Christians? We are to love others in our family unit as Christ has loved us (John 15:12). When we learn to function in this manner we never fail, though the form our family takes comes to an end (I Corinthians 13:8).
I hope my single readers are encouraged by Wade's words. You singles are valuable to the Body of Christ (and to me). You are just as valuable to Christ as me, a married woman and mother or as a pastor or as a child. When we look at the full picture, we are all equals among Christ. I hope you take great comfort in that truth.