A stranger, and not your own lips.
- Other churches don't preach the full counsel of God, they minced words and have only light and fluffy sermons.
- Most churches don't evangelize like BGBC and it's rare to find a church where members evangelize on a weekly basis.
- Friendship evangelism is an inferior method of evangelism. Our method is better.
- Other churches play watered-down praise and worship music, but we play only hymns and good praise songs.
- We don't let our young ladies/women show their cleavage because we know how to dress modestly. Other churches don't even address that issue like we do.
- Most of our families homeschool their children because it's not right to let the government take over our children's education.
- We would never have a youth group because you know what happens with kids and raging hormones. Any of our youth activities are always supervised with parents/elders and we have a Bible study to go along with the activity because we're more spiritual and other youth groups are primarily for social and fun activities.
- Most of our moms stayed at home with the children rather than pawn the children off in daycare.
Here is more on elitism I found at an online blog dealing with spiritual abuse. Provender.
What elitism does is unify church members. They get the message. THEY don't want to be like the worldly groups out there that don't care about lost souls or the poor or missions or the scripture. They want to make sure they are among the chosen few. To do this, they will hunker down, they will keep to the group, they will make sure the leadership knows they are loyal and true and not heathen like those other groups outside.
When things get messy and they are tempted to leave, elitism is a powerful handcuff. Members have spent so much time looking down on other groups and playing up their own gifts, that to leave means they have to reverse their thinking, and that's very hard to do. Suddenly, they are thinking about no longer being part of God's special group, and also about joining up with groups they - along with the church leadership - have looked down on for so long. That's a hard reversal to stomach.
Besides bragging about gifts and callings, and besides castigating other "inferior" churches, another sign of elitism is when the pastor or leaders won't meet with other community pastors. They will not join ministerial alliances or Christian groups in a community. They are too good for those lukewarm Christians. They are far above them and will not deign to rub shoulders with them. While many elitist pastors do meet with such groups either just for show or because it lends credibility to the group, the very hard core elitists will not. If your pastor won't meet with other pastors unless they are of the same denomination, it is a big, bright, red flag that he is an elitist and possibly abusive.
Elitism can be blatant or subtle, but it's a common trait of abusive churches.
he crowns the humble with victory.