So many of my current readers already know this story, but there are new people stopping by, so please bear with the repeat. I had posted negative Google reviews of my former church, but they were removed. My Google review was based on my personal experiences at the church and expressed my opinions. This blog was "born" as a result of having my Google reviews removed by my former pastor. After I began posting on the blog, I was sued by my former pastor for defamation (in an attempt to keep me quiet aka No-Talk Rule - see the No-Talk Rule under "Definitions").
When I began this blog, the intention was to share my experiences of my previous church, discuss my interpretation of Scriptures, healthy/unhealthy churches/pastors, etc. The blog also allowed an opportunity for others to share their thoughts and experiences. And they did. For a small church of maybe 100 people at the most, this blog site averaged between 250-450 hits per day before the media found the story.
I was also aware that people might stumble across this blog by performing internet searches, searching for key words like "spiritual abuse", just as I had previously done and continue to do. Spiritual abuse stories tend to be similar. Pastors who spiritually abuse follow similar patterns in methods of abuse. The end results are the same, too. It makes sense that people who have suffered spiritual abuse can identify with others who have shared the same experiences, but with different churches/pastors.
After the media excitement, the blog readership has leveled off and has easily doubled from pre-media days. I figured there would be some who would happen upon the blog through searching spiritual abuse, but this was much more than anticipated. I suspect now that most of the people who comment or read have never been connected to my former church.
I'm wondering if it would be appropriate to change the name of the blog from Beaverton Grace Bible Church Survivors to something more encompassing of what is going on here. Sure, I will continue to tell my stories - because as I said, the abuse really is the same, just minor twists and turns from another's spiritual abuse story from a different church and pastor. Lately it seems that there are more people commenting (and e-mailing me privately) who don't have connections with BGBC. The media gave me an opportunity to highlight this growing problem in churches and I don't want people to come to this site to think that this is only BGBC-related. It's not. Do you think the current blog name is obsolete?
I'd love your feedback. Should I change the name of the blog?
Can you offer suggestions of a new blog name that would be more encompassing of spiritual abuse in general - something that would let people know that this is a place where they can find support and information and good discussion? What are your thoughts?
Edited to add: This is the Blogger info showing keyword searches for this blog for the past month. Keep in mind that exactly a month ago the media was still a bit crazy.
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BTW: The next court hearing is Friday the 13th (of July) - only 25 days away. The website this photo comes from says this about Friday the 13th: It’s Friday the 13th. A day best spent indoors, in a padded room. Considered to be one of the most unluckiest of days.