WARNING TO SINGLES: You just might blow a fuse after reading this. Brace yourselves.
Yesterday I was reading SGMSurvivors.com blog and read this comment:
November 28th, 2012 at 11:06 pm
Persona -- don’t even get me started on that line of thinking about singles. CJ got that straight from Mohler. “There is no biblical category for enduring singleness.” That was the BS phrase Mohler used. I guess we should just throw out the entire passage on singleness that Paulw rote for the convenience of Mohler and Mahaney. My brother confronted CJ (I was with him) about letting Mohler speak on the subject after the 1st Lousiville NA conference. CJ admitted that he thought Mohler went overboard and that he and Josh had tried to get Mohler to tone it down the night before but overall he thought for the good of the group (at the expense of older singles) Mohler’s message should be heard. CJ tried to deflect my brother to Mohler, but my brother told CJ Mohler wasn’t responsible for SGM, CJ was. Mahaney would hear none of it.
Andy Farmer led a community group for the “older singles” after the session and he spent the whole time doing damage control and from what I understood, the damage control continued at the local churches for quite a while after that.
I remember a PDI where singles were exhorted to glorify God as they uniquely could as singles. After CJ became pals with Mohler that message was out the window, marriage and family became idols, and singles became second class citizens in SGM.
Ok, I found this comment disturbing, so I went searching and found the Al Mohler quote. It comes from his sermon entitled The Mystery of Marriage:
Embedded in this text are precepts and principles meant for us in our own sexually confused day. I want to make a statement which I know you are likely, at least in your spirit, to want to reject. I want to suggest to you that there is no biblical category of enduring singleness as an aspiration. There is no biblical category of enduring singleness, except for the gift of celibacy for God’s glory in gospel service. Now, this is counterintuitive because we live in a day where we cherish our ability to define our own existence and to choose our own lifestyle. We live in a day of confusion in which marriage has been so marginalized that it is now merely one option among others. In society and even in many churches, enduring singleness is seen as one more lifestyle option. And this is especially true of men, particularly the high number who conveniently self-rationalize that sex before marriage is biblically okay, often with the high-sounding cover that, of course, this is true only as long as it’s in the context of a “loving relationship.”
I believe the Scripture does not leave that option open to us, except in that extraordinary circumstance of God giving the gift of celibacy to certain individuals for His glory and for gospel service. Paul was very concerned about this. “I say this,” he says in verse 6, “as a concession, not a command. I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another.” Celibacy is a gift, and marriage is a gift. You have to know which is yours.
I am addressing this blog post to singes.
Singles!!!!! Evidently you are to blame for problems in the church. Were you aware of that? (ACK JA is about to pull her hair out.) Did you know that you are to blame for the problems in our churches, our education systems, and families?
I'm seeing a disturbing trend. As I started reading abuse stories, I was struck at how the church in general is treating singles - whether single by choice or by divorce or death. So for years singles have been slipping through the cracks, not having a real place. Singles don't fit in with families, so where do we put them? Oh yea, single women should be babysitting for couples with young children. They have time on their hands because they are single, right? (Don't get me going.)
It's funny how when surfing the net, all of a sudden a bunch of similar topics come screaming out at me. I stumbled across a trailer to a new movie: UnMarried. I'm trying to find more background about the movie. The YouTube user is connected with Family Vision Films. (I'm wondering if there is a connection with Vision Forum. If someone knows, please let me know.)
Check out this very brief movie trailer. Listen to the intensity of their words. Is this a "gospel" message they are trying to tell us? Do singles have an agenda?
Man #1: This is the fundamental problem of our social systems. It is a fundamental problem with our churches a fundamental problem with education systems and it will yield severe, severe, socio-economic problems in years to come.
Man #2: We’re losing the vision. Wer’e losing the very thing - God began a unique work in the midst of this movement and we’re losing it.
Man #1: If we don’t address this issue, we’re done. There is no future for the family. There’s no future for the church. There is no future for our Nation.
Please someone help me out. Isn't Nancy Leigh DeMoss single? Wasn't Elizabeth Elliot single many years as a missionary after her husband passed away? Maybe someone has become single as a result of their spouse divorcing them or abuse/infidelity or death. Are they responsible for that? Have these ladies caused fundamental problems for our churches and families by their singleness? For some reason only single women are coming to mind - my brain has frozen.
Really? Give me a break.
Singles, please pipe in. Tell me how you are contributing to the troubles in our church. I dare you.
How does this message promote the gospel? What redeeming message is it sending singles? What am I missing? If I am misunderstanding this message, please let me know. I can handle it.
Do these folks have 1 Corinthians 7 in their Bibles? Oh boy . . . I need to go to choir and unwind my confused brain.