Reader Rebecca Kvenvolden asks a great question and suggested it as a topic for a post. I think it's a great topic for discussion:
Hey Julie Anne! would you consider a post/conversation about how we can serve our friends who are still in an abusive church? I posted a link to my facebook about mark driscoll, and was jumped all over by some of my friends who still attend MHC. I'm out of my mind with frustration as they just do NOT GET IT! It all flips back to ME and why "I'M" angry and sinful for exposing this pastor's sinful behavior! I'm SO frustrated by this, and i feel like God has given me a burden to be a help to others, but i keep getting kicked in the face and am really starting to get angry and bitter about it. Is there NO way to influence others? it seems so obvious to me now, but I too, was warned and totally blew it off, so ??? ugg.
It's very difficult to watch friends and loved ones in a bad church situation when we can see clearly what is going on. What do you think? Have you tried to help friends who are in an abusive church? Did it work? What did you do? How can we help our friends who are "stuck" in abusive churches?
”Spiritual abuse occurs when someone in a position of spiritual authority, the purpose of which is to ‘come underneath’ and serve, build, equip and make God’s people MORE free, misuses that authority placing themselves over God’s people to control, coerce or manipulate them for seemingly Godly purposes which are really their own.” – Jeff Van Vonderen