Secondly, some of you may have shut God out of your life based on your experiences at the church. That part makes me very sad and angry. What you were taught was an impossibility to live day in and day out. While you were supposed to have a shepherd guide you in your walk toward God, you may have been left wanting nothing to do with Him. Please do not let your bad experience shape the path of your spiritual walk. What you heard and saw was works and law, not grace. It was nothing short of false teaching. There are good churches out there and there are good pastors who make it their goal to help guide, not lord over you. When you feel ready, please try again.
Thirdly, I've been in touch with a number of parents who have since left. Your parents love you deeply. And if your parents are no longer at the church, keep in mind they are probably in the process of coming to terms with what they went through. They are certainly doing some soul searching as all parents do: how did this happen, why did I go to this church, why did I stay there, how were my children affected by staying there, etc. If it helps, please feel free to use this blog post as a conversation starter in your family. Keep talking. Keep extending grace to each other.
Finally then, brethren, we request and exhort you in the Lord Jesus, that as you received from us instruction as to how you ought to walk and please God (just as you actually do walk), that you excel still more. For you know what commandments we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God; and that no man transgress and defraud his brother in the matter because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we also told you before and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for the purpose of impurity, but in sanctification. So, he who rejects this is not rejecting man but the God who gives His Holy Spirit to you.1 Thessolonians 4:1-8