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Monday, November 19, 2012

C.J. Mahaney's Philosophy on Friends: Don't Bite the Hand that Feeds You


"For you yourselves know, brothers, that our coming to you was not in vain. But though we had already suffered and been shamefully treated at Philippi, as you know, we had boldness in our God to declare to you the gospel of God in the midst of much conflict. For our appeal does not spring from error or impurity or any attempt to deceive, but just as we have been approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel, so we speak, not to please man, but to please God who tests our hearts. For we never came with words of flattery, as you know, nor with a pretext for greed—God is witness. ..."1 Thessalonians 2:1-20 ESV



It's been over a month since Sovereign Grace Ministries (SGM), C.J. Mahaney and others were named in a lawsuit for mishandling of sex abuse cases, etc.  I've been following this story for over 5 years because the spiritual abuse tactics and how they handled sex abuse cases in the church resembled what I experienced at my former church (the same church/pastor who sued me and 4 others for defamation for $500,000).  Reading this post, we will discover another pattern used by these types of pastors.  It's an important pattern to note.  

Some may recall that last year, C.J. Mahaney stepped down from his position as president, taking a leave of absence to do some soul searching on accusations brought before him.  Some of these accusations stemmed from a 600-page document written by Brent Detwiler which was released on the internet.  Instead of C.J.  remaining at his home church, Covenant Life Church (CLC), to deal with his issues and putting himself around his church's elders for accountability, he went to his BFF's (best friends forever) church, Mark Dever at Capitol Hill Baptist to hide  worship.  Those who have been involved with SGM have stated that no other pastor or leader would have been allowed to leave a SGM church while being under scrutiny, but the pattern we see in these kinds of churches is that the leaders don't have to go by the same set of rules that they enforce on other pastors/leaders.  JA conclusion:  C.J. Mahaney thinks he is special and gets a free pass to do as he pleases without regard to the rules he has set in place for those beneath him.  

One other notable aspect of C.J. is his many close buddies.  Immediately after C.J. publicly announced that he was going to be taking a leave of absence, a number of his celebrity pastor BFFs came to his defense publicly:  Al Mohler (this article is really good, btw), Ligon Duncan, Ray Ortlund, etc.  

Many bloggers, including yours truly, have been watching and waiting for C.J.'s celebrity friends to issue some sort of public statement since the lawsuit went public.



What is the response from C.J.'s friends?  zilch, nothing, squat, nada!!  



Blog queens, Deb and Dee from The Wartburg Watch have been keeping track of the number of days  gone by without a response and have it posted on their blog front and center here:  









It really makes you wonder why are these celebrity pastors silent?  




It looks like CJ's buddies don't have a problem with this lawsuit as evidenced by this:







The 2013 National Conference of the Gospel Coalition lists C.J. Mahaney as one of the speakers.  Take special note of who else is speaking:  C.J.'s good friends!!!  Here are just a few:












"These are grumblers, malcontents, following their own sinful desires; they are loud-mouthed boasters, showing favoritism to gain advantage."Jude 1:16 ESV




Ok, so why would these guys want to share a platform with someone who has so much controversy?  Quite a few SGM churches are leaving the group because of all the controversy.  What about those folks?  Are their arguments valid?  The stories we have read about abuse cover-ups are shocking.  Do C.J.'s buddies not care?  Are they not concerned about the spiritual abuse and sexual abuse cover-ups that have been made public?  Why are they willing to overlook it?  My brain demands, WHY????????????

And then I noticed C.J.'s Twitter account.  A lot of celebrity pastors are taking advantage of social media, like Twitter, to connect with people who follow them.  Check this out - - - as of the time of this screen shot, C.J. has over 23,510 followers.  Presumably most of his followers are people who want to hear what he has to say and probably a good many of them have a lot of respect for him.  That's quite a platform of followers, isn't it, when can you say something and have 23,510 people read your words in an instant?  Whoa!







I am following him because I want to know what he's saying to his wide audience.  Well, I've been getting an "earfull".

Check out C.J.'s recent tweets:











































"For such people are not serving our Lord Christ, but their own appetites. By smooth talk and flattery they deceive the minds of naive people."
Romans 16:18 NIV












"I will not show partiality to any man or use flattery toward any person. For I do not know how to flatter, else my Maker would soon take me away."Job 32:21-22 ESV


Those are seemingly nice tweets, right?  But what do you notice about these tweets?  Notice the people connected with them?  Are you seeing what I'm seeing?  He's giving shoutouts to his friends - people he rubs shoulders with at conferences and people he endorses on book covers.  There's a big concentration of Al Mohler shout-outs - probably because SGM recently moved their headquarters to be near Mohler's Southern Baptist Theological Seminary.  This is an excellent article discussing Mohler's alliance with Mahaney.  Of course CJ is giving accolades to Mohler and endorsing his new book, Conviction to Lead.

Could this be why Al Mohler won't speak out against his good friend - - -  why Carson and DeYoung and Packer won't speak out?


Are you familiar with the expression:  "don't bite the hand that feeds you?"  That comes to mind as I read these tweets.  It would be pretty uncomfortable to be a close friend of CJ's and then speak out publicly against him when he is publicly endorsing you to literally thousands.  It sure seems that C.J. is flattering his friends into silence and they are too weak to stand up against it.  




"For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart."
Hebrews 4:12 ESV







Sunday, November 11, 2012

Sovereign Grace Ministries: Analysis of CLC Members Meeting




Analysis of CLC Members Meeting of August 17, 2011


INTRODUCTION

The following analysis was produced by Brad Sargent. He is more known by his online handle of “brad/futuristguy,” and he often writes about recovery from spiritual abuse and how to prevent toxic organizations. 

For this article, Brad used a transcript of the Covenant Life Church (CLC) members’ meeting of August 17, 2011. This meeting dealt with pastoral responses to survivor blog reports about cases of harmful “pastoral care” involving victims of child sexual abuse. He applied his perspectives as an organizational developer, cultural analyst, and futurist (strategic foresight practitioner) and wrote the following on October 13, 2012 – approximately three weeks after a class action lawsuit was filed against Sovereign Grace Ministries (an association of churches of which CLC was once the main member) and some of SGM’s and CLC’s former leaders. This was also about three weeks before it became public that CLC was already in a process to consider dissociating from SGM. 

While all that was happening, Brad – who is an outsider to SGM – was doing research to understand the background of the lawsuit. Reviewing this document was part of his process in coming to grips with the organizational systems of both SGM and CLC, how they related to the lawsuit, and what all churches and ministries could learn from the situation. Since Brad’s perspective is one of an informed outsider, it may be helpful in raising questions and points of interest that others might not yet see. It is presented here with his permission as part of continuing to consider SGM and the lawsuit, especially in light of how to analyze toxic theologies and practices involved in spiritual abuse. For other posts on topics related to SGM, see the category labeled Sovereign Grace Ministries Abuse.

There is one additional note about this meeting. It was held in August 2011 (not 2012), so please keep in mind that who the three speakers were a year ago is not necessarily who they are now. From very recent events, it does seem that the CLC leaders appear to be making some “detoxifying” progress on addressing their past, present, and future – even while they are still being called out online to push themselves further, as with a recent post by Brent Detwiler encouraging them to be more transparent and specific on their reasons for considering a departure from the SGM network.

Finally, progress in personal and organizational change for those enmeshed in SGM’s and CLC’s leadership is just as difficult as recovery is for those of us who are survivors of spiritual abuse.  This process is step by step, sometimes forward, sometimes backward, sometimes half-and-half in a way that sends us into a twist.  It is sometimes stop, sometimes go, not always the pace we want, sometimes faster than we think we can handle.  But the goal of becoming more Christlike is still the goal, no matter the exact route or speed of the journey, and progress is still progress. 

We'd do well to have similar grace for the change process of people who've been the perpetrators of spiritual abuse or their henchmen or their excusers as we have for one another as survivors of that abuse, despite how hard that may be. We can and should acknowledge forward movement when it does happen, just as we should not fear to keep pointing out if there is reversion, or no movement, or simply just orbiting around the same tetherball pole of image and reputation. We are, after all, all in this together, manifesting the Kingdom of Christ to a watching world.



BRAD/FUTURISTGUY’S ANALYSIS OF
THE CLC MEMBERS MEETING OF AUGUST 17, 2011

I took the Covenant Life Church (CLC) Members Meeting recording and transcript document pretty much on their own status, without investigating all the details surrounding the issues in question (though I did consider some relevant commentaries and blog posts). I am considering the big-picture issues involved – the overall cultural context and trends, and what needs to be learned in order to go forward with greater clarity, discernment, and wisdom. I did also look at it as a reporter or legal advocate might, with legitimate skepticism in order to consider what is there, what may be missing, and raise questions about the past, present, and future in the specific situation. 


The recording was of a Members Meeting held on August 17, 2011, at Covenant Life Church in Gaithersburg, Maryland. Three men spoke: 


  • Senior Pastor Joshua Harris
  • Greg Somerville, Family Life Pastor
  • Corby Megorden, Church Administrator


The main issue in this section of the meeting concerned SGM survivor blog reports of child sexual abuse at CLC, and issues raised about reporting of the abuse to the police, how pastoral care was/wasn’t conducted, etc. According to Senior Pastor Josh Harris, in the two incidents of sexual abuse that were reported on a blog, one occurred in the 1980s and one in the 1990s. Both of them happened in homes of parishioners, not on church property. 


I listened to the recording while reviewing the transcript. From the topics addressed and the range of speakers who addressed them, it seems to me that assumed (but perhaps unstated) purposes of the presentation included at least the following:

  • Express grief and contrition for errors in judgment that resulted in questions about the professionalism of two pastors involved in the past cases of sexual abuse. 
  • Emphasize that there are two sides to a story and that misperceptions cause damage.
  • Suggest that the church and its pastors did “due diligence” pastorally, ethically, and legally regarding the cases – and that abuse situations are complex and there is no formula for pastoral care but there is a process in place to guide in wise care.
  • Reinforce the church’s commitment to safety for children in the church’s services, and educate the congregation about the basic policies, procedures, and protections implemented to promote an environment that is highly safe from child abuse.



The overall cultural context to consider is that child sexual abuse, and child abuse/neglect have become increasingly more prominent social and legal concerns over the past 10 years or so. They have gained more prominence with the exposure of the Jerry Sandusky pedophile scandal, the administrative cover-up by Penn State officials, and the inadequate responses of what could be characterized as a relatively passive board of trustees. So, while there are severe inconsistencies across the U.S. for mandatory reporting by church staff of known or suspected child sexual abuse, certainly that will see significant clarification over the next decade. 



As an example of the inconsistencies on requirements to report, consider this: In current Maryland law, clergy are not specifically enumerated as mandated reporters for cases of child abuse or neglect. They would be exempt from reporting for disclosures made in “pastoral communications.” However, they may be included with the “any person” designation, i.e., anyone who knows/suspects a case of abuse must report it. So, in my understanding, if a Maryland pastor failed to report a known case or allegation of child sexual abuse occurring within his/her parish – regardless of whether it occurred on church property or not – he/she might still be legally liable for failure to report. If that same situation happened in Oklahoma, where there is no “pastoral communications” exemption, if a pastor refused to report a suspected case of child abuse/neglect, he/she could be considered having some degree of legal responsibility and consequences. For more details, see Mandatory Reporting Laws for Clergy: Loopholes for Abuse (October 10, 2012) and the links there.

While all that gets sorted out in the legislative realm, here are concerns that I have, based on the recording I heard and transcript I read. These are issues that I believe apply to all churches and ministries.


1. There is a difference between a sin and a crime, in terms of what to do about them. The speakers emphasize that CLC is a “redemptive community” for repentant sinners of all kinds, and suggested that child abuse situations are complex, so they have a “pastoral process” with recommendations on how to serve all parties – alleged perpetrators and victims. They also have significant in-church protections and policies in place that are apparently followed. They refer to child sexual abuse as “sin.” However, none of this deals with clarity on legal issues of crime and reporting. A huge red flag was raised for me when Church Administrator Corby Megorden talked about reporting:

“We want to ensure we follow the legal requirements of the, of the State and we want to make sure we honor the Lord. [pause] Whenever a report comes, it comes as a report of potential abuse, because we need to confirm that. It can be either confessed by an individual. It can be reported by someone else, or it can be discovered and seen by someone else. In any case, here’s what we’ll, what we’ll try to do: We’ll first try to determine the validity of the report. Has there actually been abuse? The next thing we do is we contact our legal counsel to get their assessment.”


As best I can understand from this limited set of evidence only, there is a fundamental flaw here - one that definitely has been played out elsewhere: CLC did not have clear boundaries between servants in the church and citizens in society. It is not their job as pastors to “determine the validity of the report.” This is an alleged CRIME, not merely an alleged sin. Yes, work with all parties involved pastorally. However, if you intercept the legal/criminal process, are you not automatically putting yourself in an unauthorized position over the duly constituted legal authorities? Are you potentially setting yourself up as an accomplice to a crime? It is the responsibility of the civil authorities to sort out the details, not church authorities. 

In the current era and going forward, I believe it would be a far wiser policy/procedure to automatically and immediately report the abuse to the police when there is an accusation of child sexual abuse (and also of child abuse/neglect, domestic violence, and any other such criminal activity activity) and then call your legal counsel.  
Otherwise, you put too much emphasis on pastoral care when a legal intervention is called for, too much emphasis potentially on confidentiality instead of due diligence. Confusion here will prove the set-up for later accusationsand justifiably so – of cover-ups, of minimizing victims and showing preference to perpetrators, of taking the law into your own hands.


2. Given that their “pastoral process” has a confused policy/procedure for reporting, there is also evidence that this process was likely more passive than active when it came to dealing with known perpetrators. Greg Somerville said:


“Two incidents were reported on the blog. The first one involved a member of the church and his step-daughter; described a pattern of abuse that occurred over a three-year period in the mid-80s. It was eventually reported in 1987. When the pastors learned of the incident, they urged this individual to turn himself in to the police, which he promptly did. He served a two-year sentence and was released on parole at that point.”


“They urged this individual to turn himself in to the police, which he promptly did.” First, this confuses legal and pastoral. If someone is known to have committed an unreported crime, do you “urge” them to turn themselves in? Or do you require them to go and you’ll go with them as their pastor – but if they refuse, you report them anyway – and quickly – because they may otherwise revictimize the same victim(s) or find additional victims? Second, someone with more knowledge of the specifics commented that in this particular case, the self-reporting of this man to the police was not quite “prompt.” In fact, it was approximately a month later. Was that just a bad choice of words on Pastor Somerville’s part, or an indication of a bad process underneath?

I appreciate that CLC had restrictions in place for behaviors of sex offenders who participate in the church (i.e., about staying away from children and children’s ministry areas). But I was also very uneasy with what seems a vague and “squishy” process of sex offenders “making known their status as they develop relationships within the church.”



“Um, the gospel covers all sin and the blood of Christ cleanses all sin. However, we, we do want to be wise and caring, so a sexual offender who attends, or is a member must do the following: They meet with a pastor and it’s been Mark Mitchell, and review a three-page set of guidelines as to how they are to behave. Those guidelines include: They are not allowed with children, at all, on church property, unless an adult is present. They’re not allowed in Discovery Land [children’s ministry area]. They have a commitment to make known their status as they develop relationships within the church. And, uh, and let Care Group members and others, who are in their lives and have children, know this is their background, and this is their history. [pause] The men that we have in the church, that have been guilty of these sins, have been faithful to do that and are committed to doing that. You know, we can always do it better, but they’ve been doing it well.”



Between “urging” an offender to turn himself in and letting sexual offenders “have a commitment to make known their status …” – that is not exactly reassuring that the pastoral staff was actively pursuing pastoral care of those with life-dominating problems. It sounds more like passively responding to those with this life-dominating problem. Is it wise to depend on a good-will commitment of criminal offenders to self-report and share their status, especially when their sin patterns typically involve years of practice in manipulation, shading the truth, and outright lying? All of this, again, raises understandable accusations of minimizing the damage done to victims and potentially setting the stage for more victimization. 


3. In the digital era, sincerity will never be enough in responding to conflict and challenges; you must be ready to back up your words with documentation and with deeds. The concern for showing pastoral care was very prominent in the meeting. The term “reach out” was used in some form 8 times. The word “care” was used in some form or phrase 28 times, and all three speakers used it multiple times. 

But was “care” truly shown in “reaching out” to the survivors of victimization that happened in homes of those attending CLC, as reported on the blog? Some of those critiquing the situations of “care” and the “outreach” have suggested that the supposed acknowledgements of mishandling sexual abuse cases, and apologies, actually had less to do with support for the victims than with protection of the church’s systems and pastors. This raises legitimate questions that relate to whether these ministries are “toxic” or not, whether they are “safe” or unhealthy.


  • What “care” was actually shown in these situations of abuse, and how was that term defined? 
  • How did CLC staff actively “reach out” to survivors? 
  • Is there an actual apology or only a pseudo-apology provided by church staff at CLC? How do actions and follow-through over time demonstrate the difference between actual or pseudo?
  • Has the related system of Sovereign Grace Ministries shown a long-term pattern of mishandling sexual abuse cases, and how did that pattern impact what happened through CLC? 
  • Do leaders in CLC/SGM override the legal responsibilities of civil authorities in the name of their own “pastoral care”?
  • In light of this situation, what has been done to upgrade the training and policies at CLC?


The mere presence of policies, procedures, and processes is not enough to discern the answer to such questions. Also, my points here are not merely that all church leaders should become more sensitized to the damage done to those who survive abuse – important as such empathy is. They are that:

(1) Pastors don’t always get to define what constitutes “care/concern” and “reaching out” – that is, in part, defined by how the intended audience receives it.

(2) If church leaders come at issues of conflict and communications from a position of power and defense, they’ve already lost trust. And without a bond of trust, based in love that does not seek its own way, then all they say is just clanging cymbals. 

(3) We must consider as uneraseable any reports or responses posted online to challenges about a church or ministry. Rarely can anything be “scrubbed” clean and fully removed once it has been posted. So, any digital documents posted need to be thought of as public and permanent. Given that it is all “on the record,” we need to take more care to respond with as much precision and empathy as possible. And we should be ready to document whatever it is we are saying online. 

(4) The only way to refute an allegation of a malignant pattern of mishandling situations or avoiding responsibility is with documentation. Sincerity, niceness, expressing sadness for victims will not do – while it may be appropriate, it does not demonstrate/prove “due diligence.” So, if critiques are suggesting pastoral malfeasance/negligence, we’d better have evidence to show otherwise – and not in efforts to defend our honor, but to document accurately the truth.

For more source documents and critiques about the SGM lawsuit, see these blog posts and the links there:

In conclusion, there are many dimensions to child sexual abuse in this era – legal and ethical, doctrinal and digital, procedural and pastoral. But they are not so complex or cloudy as to avoid our clear-enough responsibilities to report, to set protective boundaries for offenders, to provide empathic ministry for survivors and their relational networks. There are lessons from unfortunate past mishandling of sexual abuse situations at CLC. Hopefully they help us all pave wiser ways for the future, and ensure that pastors and parishioners alike are aware of requirements for participating in ministry.







Friday, November 9, 2012

Calvary Chapel Visalia Pastor Bob Grenier is Helping Which Victims?




"It's hard on your soul to see the pain and the destruction," said Pastor Bob Grenier of Calvary Chapel in Visalia.




This is another one of those things that make you go "hmmmmm."

Remember Pastor Bob Grenier of Calvary Chapel Visalia?  Pastor Bob Grenier and his wife, Gayle, are suing their own son and a former church member for defamation, etc.  Let me remind you of a few key points- - this is the same pastor who was deep into a lifestyle of drugs,  was miraculously saved, and entered full-time ministry in SIX days (whoa - that's some seminary training!).   

God is clear in His word about how important family relationships are, especially those in leadership, yet on Pastor Grenier's page at the Calvary Chapel Visalia church website, there is no mention of Bob or Gayle's children.  This is what I reported earlier:


In the bio, you see his wife, Gayle, mentioned, but there is no mention of any children.  I've never seen a bio of a pastor not mention children and even possibly grandchildren.   Why would he leave out the names of his children?  Calvary Chapel is all about families.  Take a look at the website to see all the children's ministries.  Why would he fail to mention his own children   . . . .unless there was a problem???  Is this another red flag?  


We know that scripture is pretty clear that Christians ought not be suing other Christians:  


When one of you has a grievance against another, does he dare go to law before the unrighteous instead of the saints? Or do you not know that the saints will judge the world? And if the world is to be judged by you, are you incompetent to try trivial cases? Do you not know that we are to judge angels? How much more, then, matters pertaining to this life! So if you have such cases, why do you lay them before those who have no standing in the church? I say this to your shame. Can it be that there is no one among you wise enough to settle a dispute between the brothers, but brother goes to law against brother, and that before unbelievers? To have lawsuits at all with one another is already a defeat for you. Why not rather suffer wrong? Why not rather be defrauded? But you yourselves wrong and defraud—even your own brothers!
(1 Corinthians 6:1-8 ESV)



Well, evidently Pastor Bob Grenier is "special" just like my former pastor.  All of the verses in the Bible do not apply to "special" pastors, you see.   And don't you think it's strange that other pastors in Pastor Bob Grenier's Calvary Chapel group of pastors don't speak out publicly against Bob Grenier's behavior?  I tell you, there are strange happenings among church "leaders".  

But now we come to this.  Less than a month from filing a lawsuit against brothers in Christ (including son, Alex), Pastor Bob Grenier is now focusing on victims.  Isn't that nice?  Wait a minute?  Victims?  Which victims is he focusing on?  

He seems to have forgotten about these victims:  Calvary Chapel Pastor Pastor Bob Grenier: Stories of Abuse As Told by His Children, but instead wants to focus on Hurricane Sandy victims.  How sweet.  So the victims who are in close proximity to him, who he has rubbed shoulders with for years don't matter, but somehow his heart is moved by the victims of Hurricane Sandy?   Alrighty, then.  I see how that works.
  





Source




Take a look at the the interview here with Pastor Bob Grenier and how he talks about the pain and destruction incurred by Hurricane Sandy Victims.  I wonder if the reporter who interviewed him knew about how Pastor Bob Grenier has treated his own church members, employees and family members?  Probably not.  KMPH FOX 26 | Central San Joaquin Valley News Source 


VISALIA, Calif. (KMPH) -
Although we're more than three thousand miles away, people here in Valley are stepping up to care for Sandy victims. 
A South Valley pastor plans to help restore hope in those coping with the devastation.
"It's hard on your soul to see the pain and the destruction," said Pastor Bob Grenier of Calvary Chapel in Visalia. 
He volunteered to join a network of pastors across California. 
They'll travel to Ocean Grove, New Jersey to feed mouths and souls of those left with nothing.
"When people have lost all their material things, they're devastated also emotionally. So being able to come alongside a person who's lost everything, and just love them and express care and concern for them is a real boost in the moment. But to be able to follow that up with practical help, those two things together can make a huge difference," said Pastor Bob.

But wait, there's more:

But he knows people in New Jersey need more than just food and shelter to re-group. While he's there, he hopes to also help restore their faith. 
"It's just hard for your soul to be exposed to tragedy," said the pastor.

The article lists Calvary Chapel Visalia to send donations and says that 100% of the donations will get to Sandy victims.  Ok, yada, yada, yada, but this is the kind of thing that just rubs me wrong:

"When people have lost all their material things, they're devastated also emotionally. So being able to come alongside a person who's lost everything, and just love them and express care and concern for them is a real boost in the moment."
"It's hard on your soul to see the pain and the destruction,"
"It's just hard for your soul to be exposed to tragedy," said the pastor. 

Dear Pastor Bob Grenier:  
I'm trying to connect with you, Pastor Bob, but there's just this little thing in the way.  It's hard on my soul to see how you have failed to address the multitudes of people who have brought to your attention issues of spiritual abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse - - victims from your very own family, church, and church employees.  To see your "heart" moved for victims of the hurricane sounds all sweet, but when you fail to deal with those whom God has placed right in your path, what message are you sending?  

I will be straight with you.  I believe you are a hypocrite.  I believe this Hurricane Sandy focus is a PR stunt to make you look good among your peers and the world in an attempt to divert the focus off the ridiculous lawsuit.  Stay home.  People whose families and lives are in order can help Hurricane Sandy victims.  Withdraw the lawsuit.  Tell your wife, Gayle, to restore her relationship with her son, Alex and his wife, and her precious grandchildren.  Get reconciled with your family.  Get reconciled with the people of your church.  Be done with this farce.  It is only making you look more foolish.  

Julie Anne


for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God's church? He must not be a recent convert, or he may become puffed up with conceit and fall into the condemnation of the devil.
(1 Timothy 3:5-6 ESV)


Please take note of signs of spiritual abuse:  preoccupation with image (narcissism), damage control, extra-Biblical rules (he gets to sue), etc.  It's easy to extend care and love to those who you don't rub shoulders with all the way on the East coast, but it is a leader's responsibility to make sure his own home is in order.  This house is a mess.  Watch these patterns.



As a side note:  Alex and Tim, defendants in the lawsuit are surely going through an emotional ordeal at this moment with regard to their lawsuit.   They are just like you and me - normal family folk but are forced to retain an attorney to defend themselves from someone I believe to be a spiritual tyrant.  If you are able to donate anything to help the cause, I know it would be greatly appreciated.  Just an FYI - when I was looking for my attorney, retainer fees ranged from $3,000 to $10,000 just to start.  I don't know about you, but most people I know can't write out a check for that amount.   If you feel led, please go over to:  Calvary Chapel Abuse and click on the Paypal donation button on top left side of the screen.