Oh can't you see . . . . . . You belong to me . . . . See, that's more of that ownership stuff. Pastors do not own their congregants, what they do outside of church, who there friends are, who they can talk to, where they go on vacation, who they choose for a spouse, etc.
Everybody needs to be singing this song in their head whenever they check out a new church to see if the pastor is behaving this dangerous way!
"Every Breath You Take"