Oh can't you see . . . . . . You belong to me . . . . See, that's more of that ownership stuff. Pastors do not own their congregants, what they do outside of church, who there friends are, who they can talk to, where they go on vacation, who they choose for a spouse, etc.
Everybody needs to be singing this song in their head whenever they check out a new church to see if the pastor is behaving this dangerous way!
"Every Breath You Take"
Every breath you take
Every move you make
Every bond you break
Every step you take
I'll be watching you
Every single day
Every word you say
Every game you play
Every night you stay
I'll be watching you
O can't you see
You belong to me
How my poor heart aches with every step you take
Every move you make
Every vow you break
Every smile you fake
Every claim you stake
I'll be watching you
Since you've gone I been lost without a trace
I dream at night I can only see your face
I look around but it's you I can't replace
I feel so cold and I long for your embrace
I keep crying baby, baby please
Every move you make
Every vow you break
Every smile you fake
Every claim you stake
I'll be watching you
Every move you make
Every bond you break
Every step you take
I'll be watching you
Every single day
Every word you say
Every game you play
Every night you stay
I'll be watching you
O can't you see
You belong to me
How my poor heart aches with every step you take
Every move you make
Every vow you break
Every smile you fake
Every claim you stake
I'll be watching you
Since you've gone I been lost without a trace
I dream at night I can only see your face
I look around but it's you I can't replace
I feel so cold and I long for your embrace
I keep crying baby, baby please
Every move you make
Every vow you break
Every smile you fake
Every claim you stake
I'll be watching you
By the way, I highly encourage you to check out the Church Folk radio show linked above. It's a 2-hr long program. My favorite was the first 30 minutes where they really break it down about pastors who stalk their congregants.
If you have ever been stalked by a pastor and are confused about appropriate boundaries for a pastor, you will come away with clear understanding. The show is educational. They take a very difficult and depressing topic, throw in some light-hearted talk to diffuse the tension, but deal with the subject head-on. There were many times I was shouting, "YES!" and waving my imaginary white hanky - it's THAT good. Check it out.
Big thanks to Kevin Oliver, NYTN (Not Your Typical Negro) who sent me the link to the show. I'll be posting more about Kevin soon.
Either this song or "Hungry Like the Wolf" by Duran Duran. Have you checked out those lyrics? Jeepers.
ReplyDeleteThat's excellent, too, Will. That should be the official song for Wolf Pastors. We'll have to get a whole collection of pastor theme songs depending on their behavior! If I'm doing a post on wolves, I'll try to remember to put that song at the top for background music while reading :)
DeleteSeems to me that this applies to what many feel God is like as well.
ReplyDeleteProbably so, Joel. Especially if their pastor has distorted God's image by making Him seem only angry and controlling. What about the love and grace part, too?
DeleteIf we think about God and these lyrics, maybe some editing is appropriate, as in "I'll be watching out for you" or "I'll be waiting for you." or "I'll be loving you."
DeleteHi BGBC survivors! REVOLUTION!! Congrats on your recent victory. We talked about your case when we first heard about it back in May. Here's a link from the archive. You and your followers might enjoy the show. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/churchfolkrevolution/2012/05/15/the-churchs-closet-when-your-pastor-is-lgbt-1
ReplyDeleteOh, cool, Leonard! Thanks for that. Kevin told me to check out today's show, so I"ll be sure to do that. I loved the Pastor Stalker- awesome!!! Keep on keepin' on.
DeleteCongratulations mother, your blog has reached 200,000+ hits!!!! :) I love you! <3 And awesome post, I was laughing when I read it. :)
ReplyDeleteLove you, too, Hannah-banana! :)
DeleteHello, Julie Ann, I am a part CFR and live in Portland. Maybe we can connect one day. We also use the song by Lauren Hill called "I get out". Check it out on YouTube with the lyrics. Tried to post but unable.,.peace love and blessings Brenda.
ReplyDeleteHi Brenda - What is CFR? I'll check out that song. Thanks!
DeleteBrenda!!! I figured it out! Church Folk Radio! REVOLUTION!!!! :) Great to have you here!
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